Demi Masa...

Demi masa...
Sesungguhnya manusia kerugian
Melainkan... Yang beriman dan beramal soleh

Demi masa...
Sesungguhnya manusia kerugian
Melainkan... Nasihat kepada kebenaran dan kesabaran

Gunakan kesempatan yang masih diberi
Moga kita takkan menyesal
Masa usia kita jangan disiakan
Kerna ia takkan kembali

Ingat lima perkara, sebelum lima perkara
Sihat sebelum sakit
Muda sebelum tua,
kaya sebelum miskin
Lapang sebelum sempit
Hidup sebelum mati

NB/ I remember to have started reciting Surah Al-Asr every single day at 'sekolah petang' in my primary school years. And I'm not ashamed to admit it all started will purely verbal in action and not truthfully meant it. May Allah guide me to prioritize what I'm looking & having for in this life and one that is far beyond important - the afterlife...

Feedback...

While waiting for a company to my hiking plan this morning (well apparently they are still sleeping), I opt to finish my reading on one of RTK book. And it got me thinking when I read - Your feedback loop: No man is an island.

Why did I name my blog 'Stop & Stare'? It's my attempt to read, observe & listen to the feedback of the world. Life & experinces are the best lessons as long as I realize the importance of the following:

1) Have the courage to be open to feedback. If you want to improve, seek more feedback. This is why coaches and mentors are important to succesful people.

2) Many will tell you what you want to hear than tell you what you need to hear. Your friends and co-workers will then speak behind your back because they lack the courage to speak to your face.

3) Offer feedback or advice only if it's asked for. Nothing infuriates people more than feedback they did not ask for... even if it's feedback they know they need. As the ancient bit of wisdom goes, "Don't teach pigs to sing. It wastes your time and it annoys the pig".

Do we fight or do we flee?

In this difficult situation, I sometimes dream to migrate and reside in other country less corrupt than Malaysia... Until the following conversation took place:


Someone: Migrate to where?
Someone: do we fight or do we flee?
Someone: do we not love this country anymore?
Someone: Is it only because these few greedy people at the top that ruin the entire otherwise beautiful nation?
Mazhiling: the country does not love me as much as I do... the feeling is not mutual...
Someone: why must we run?
Someone: why not change?
Someone: the government is not the country..
Someone: Barisan National is not the country either..
Someone: BN culture does dance well with our beautiful culture..
Someone: our friendly and generous people..
Someone: Don't let the corrupt few ruin your beautiful thoughts of this country..
Mazhiling: yes.. it's true.. hujan emas di negeri orang...
Mazhiling: hujan batu di negeri sendiri..
Someone: yes... grass is always greener on the other side..
Someone: Our country is great..
Someone: just that BN made it a little more communist then necessary..
Someone: Power and money crazy..
Someone: but i believe change is coming..
Someone: our people have greater awareness now then last time..
Someone: slightly better educated..


Phew! To live in such a beautiful, abundence natural resources, less natural disaster occurance country- I truly have been blessed.., and this left me with only one option - to fight!

*I'm not going to quit. Why should I quit? This country is worth fighting for*

Buat bodoh jer?

Ever heard of this expression before? And I was quite pissed when someone choose to do nothing and being ignorant. However, I realize 'buat bodoh' can somehow save you miraculously.

It's funny sometimes, when you want something really badly, and nothing turn out right. But when you choose to do nothing, things just have way to come out perfect!

So, after realising this, should you work really hard for the things you want? Or should you let the fate decides?

My answer is, REDAH jer!! Just do it! The outcome is not for you to decide! :)

HOW DO YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE?

I’m watching life as a big a screen TV playing nonstop. And really, just by looking, so much can be observed.

If I can divide them into 3 group:

1) Those who live in the past:

Those who are holding on to the memories that will never come back. For example, those who cherish spouse/partner as the same person they knew. And they found it hard to believe the fact that people CHANGE!
Contoh ayat: Dia bukan orang macam tu, dulu masa couple dia baik, layan saya macam puteri!

Those who has a constant grief and regret for things that happened in the past.
Contoh ayat: Menyesal aku amik course ni dulu, kalau aku tau susah camni keje dia, sure aku study mende lain…

Those who live live in guilt
Contoh ayat: Aku rasa bersalah bla bla, sbb aku pernah bla bla bla, So aku tak deserve bla la bla…

2) Those who live in the future:

Those who never stop worry
Contoh ayat: Bolehke aku survive kat kompeni baru? Takutla nak tukar kerja ni. Entah-entah keje sekarang ni lagi baik daripada kompeni baru tuh?

Those who has constant negativity - paranoia:
Contoh ayat: Aku takut aku tak boleh buat la. Aku takut orang lain ada high expectation kat aku. Macam mana kalau aku screw up?

Those who live in wishing mode
Contoh ayat: Takpela, biar aku bertahan. Suatu hari nanti, mungkin dia akan berubah...

3) Those who live at present

Those who realize NOW is what we have, and make the most of it!
Those who take one day at a time!
Those who realize nothing in this world can ever change the past, and now is what we have to work on the future we want!

So, tepuk dada… and ask ourself, which way to live our life?

*The past is forgotten and the future is promised to no one *

Selamat Hari Jadi Mak!!

sob.. sob.. wei.. sedih ni.. pagi2 lagi Lenny dah buat speech yg menyentuh perasaan... but it's really good to let out your feelings (which I'm very lousy at)...

ingat tak.. dulu masa mak marah & denda kita sbb kita degil tak nak belajar dan tak nak tolong mak buat kerja rumah... kita selalu rasa mak jahat & tak sayang kat kita...

Dulu mak sanggup tak nak beli TV n tak nak bagi kita semua tgk TV, sbb pada dia bende tu membuang masa dan sebabkan kita malas belajar & tak fokus. Dah berapa kali kita adik-beradik merayu, but they (mak & abah) stick to what they believe is right.. But, now only I realize itulah kasih sayang mak yg sebenar. They want us to focus and achieve what we want in life...

Ko ingat lagi tak, masa kite main gelongsor dekat bukit belakang rumah Cik Melur, abis kotor baju. Pastu mak dtg bawak rotan/getah hitam. Abis kite tiga beradik kene. Malu kene pukul depan kawan takyah cerita la... Tapi aku rasa ko lah yang paling teruk kene antara kita adik beradik, sbb ko yg paling nakal & rebellious... muhahaha...

pastu ko ingat lagi tak kita pi tangkap udang & ikan seluang tiga beradik ngan abah... Habis satu badan berlumpur. Pastu bila sampai umah, mak denda kita 4 orang (abah pon kene sekali) duduk kat luar rumah, mandi & basuh baju sendiri. Dah bersih, baru boleh masuk dalam rumah.. Aku rase mak memang garang sgt masa tu.. Tp sekarang baru aku sedar, kita pon sama je kekadang cam mak.. clean freak...

Hmm.. I’m wishing all the best utk mak.. Semoga mak sentiasa sihat and always be around forever. I love you mom!!

23 days to deadline...

As much as I used to hate deadline, I personally feel that's the best way to make me do what I was supposed to do... If I were to look back and wonder, did I ever slip a dealine? Very rare.. As far as I could recall, maybe in an occasion or two... (hmm.. pernah ke?)

So, this time, I'm gonna do this within a given timeline. Kire2 cam reality show la pulak. Adoi!

Wish me luck!

Or should I make my mission sounds like this - "23 days to deadline, and the start of a new beginning..."

*Goals are dreams with deadlines - Diana Scharf Hunt *