I don't give a damn!!

“I like Dr. Daniel Amen’s 18/40/60 Rule: When you’re 18, you worry about what everybody is thinking of you; when you’re 40, you don’t give a darn what anybody thinks of you; when you’re 60, you realize nobody’s been thinking about you at all. Surprise, surprise! Most of the time, nobody’s thinking about you at all! They are too busy worrying about their own lives, and if they are thinking about you at all, they are wondering what you are thinking about them. People think about themselves, not you. Think about it — all the time you are wasting worrying about what other people think about your ideas, your goals, your clothes, your hair, and your home could all be better spent on thinking about and doing the things that will achieve your goals.” ~ Jack Canfield from The Success Principles.

Hehehehe. That. Is. Funny. And so true, eh?

Dale Carnegie says something similar in his great book How to Stop Worrying and Start Living: “I realize now that people are not thinking about you and me or caring what is said about us. They are thinking about themselves—before breakfast, after breakfast, and right on until ten minutes past midnight. They would be a thousand times more concerned about a slight headache of their own than they would about the news of your death or mine.”

Let’s quit wasting our precious energy worrying about what others think of us and direct it into creating our ideal lives, shall we? :)

Credit to Philosopher Notes.

Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve :)

I first learned this life changing hallmark expressions by Napoleon Hill in January 08, when attending Amus talk. What a fateful day :)

Let's SEE it and HEAR it again, shall we?



Key take aways:

STEP 1: Get ourself a note book, palmtop - whatever suits us..

STEP 2: Write down our major desire in life

STEP 3: Write down what we intend to give in return for our list of desire from life

STEP 4: Memorize both statements and repeat at least dozen times daily

STEP 5: Always end our statement with the expression of gratitude :)

"I ask not for divine providence or more riches, but more wisdom with which to accept and use wisely the riches I received at birth: the power to control and direct my mind to whatever ends I desire."- Napoleon Hill (and adopted as my own personal affirmation)

Fear & Stress

Yesterday was one of the day when fear and stress dominating me. It felt good to receive some words of encouragement which I like to share it to the world...

"Anyone who says he isn't afraid of anything is both stupid and lying." ~ David K. Reynolds from Constructive Living.

Hehe. I love that.

As Reynolds continues: "Fear is a healthy emotion. It produces caution, and caution helps keep us alive. Fear, like pain, is unpleasant for anyone, but the discomfort is an alarm that calls our attention to some problem facing us. It is good to be afraid at times."

As Aristotle teaches us in his lessons on the "Virtuous Mean," it's not about being fearless. It's about having the proper amount of fear and the COURAGE to face that fear. In Aristotle's words, this is the virtuous mean between the "vice of excess" of fear (cowardice) and the "vice of deficiency" of fear (rashness).

Are you feeling fear around something right now? Start by honoring that. It's serving you in an important way. Once you've done that, a Constructive question to ask is: "Now what needs to be done?" :)

Credit to Philosphers Notes